Spiritual life coaching for gay and bi men coming out

You’ve felt different for a long time. Maybe you tried to hide it, or you’re still deciding what you’re feeling and experiencing. You just know there’s more to life than hiding or feeling ashamed or guilty. I know because, as a gay man, I’ve walked this path before. When you choose me as a coming out coach, I’ll offer you a safe space to unpack your life experiences and devise a plan to come out on your terms and timeframe. Stop hiding. Schedule a free clarity call today. 

Life coaching for coming out can make embracing an uncloseted life easier and more fulfilling

Everyone’s coming out journey is unique.

Depending on where you are in your personal journey, you may:

  • Be unsure about your sexual orientation or gender identity and need help clarifying how you identify.
  • Be struggling with stereotypes, false beliefs, shame, or guilt around your sexual identity or gender identity.
  • Be fearful of being rejected by the people that matter the most to you.
  • Be unsure how to find “your people” who will accept and support you on your journey.
  • Need help learning how to talk about your sexual and gender identity?
  • Still trying to figure out what comes next. How do you build your new life out of the closet?

Imagine creating a new life where you don’t have to edit, censor or hide any parts of yourself, and the people around you celebrate you as the beautiful, magical being you are. This is your best life, and you can create it right now.

I’m a gay life coach who’s experienced the doubts and fears around coming out.

As a young gay man, I experienced negative feelings about my sexual identity. I knew many people would love and accept me no matter what, but I still felt fearful to take that first step. Once I came out and accepted myself, I found my place in the LGBT community and people that celebrated the magic of who I am. 

Before becoming a professional coach, I spent much of my spare time helping facilitate spirituality workshops and retreats for the LGBTQ community. As a coming out coach, I will meet you wherever you are on your journey and provide a safe space to confidentially process your personal experiences and meet your specific goals for coming out. 

Even though every journey is unique, there are four main stages to coming out:


The first stage in the coming out journey is uncovering who you are and how you want to show up. You may have had some life experiences that leave you questioning your sexual orientation or gender identity. During the excavation stage, you explore what’s true for you and who you are at a soul level.


During the integration stage, you may be experiencing hesitation about who you are. You may have deeply held false beliefs and thought distortions about what it means to be LGBTQIA. This may even include feelings of guilt or shame. The integration stage is about overcoming shame and false beliefs to begin feeling comfortable in your skin as a gay or bi man.


The celebration phase is where you feel proud of who you are. You’re ready to ditch shame and guilt. This is the phase where coming out happens. It’s a time to step into joy and celebrate and share your authentic self. In this phase, you shed the things in your previous life that no longer serve you. It’s not enough to be accepted.

You deserve to be celebrated!


Congratulations! You’ve come out. During the evolution stage, your focus is on creating the kind of life as an out gay or bi man that you desire to live. You may be ready for a romantic relationship and all the challenges associated. You may seek a deeper purpose in your life and your experience as a gay or bi man. This is the stage where you can discover your magic and change the world. 

The coming out coaching process

Coming out coaching works when both sides are committed to the process. I want you to work with me as your coming-out coach because you believe the process will work for you. I’ll be 100% committed and fully present in the process. I ask that you make the same commitment to show up and do the work.  The work won’t always be easy. But if you commit, roll up your sleeves, and dive in, you will experience positive changes in all areas of life. You may be surprised at how draining grappling with a big secret like this has been. 

The coming out journey is personal and unique for everyone. We’ll work at your pace, and while I may, at times, challenge you, I’ll never pressure or push you beyond your comfort level.

I’m here to listen, ask open-ended questions that increase your awareness, notice your blind spots, and help you plan and take effective action steps. Through this, I will focus on helping you find and implement your own solutions in your timeframe. 

It all starts with a free intro or clarity call. During this call, we’ll discuss your goals, your main challenges, and where you want to be in the long term. The goal is for you to understand better if this is the right time for you to begin the coming out process and whether I’d be a good fit as your coming out coach. 

If you’re ready to move forward after the clarity call, our first coaching session will be an extended session, I call the Discovery session. This session will dig deeper into the personal goals and specific problems we touched on in the Clarity Call. We’ll also take a closer look at some of your personal relationships to discover your most likely allies and supporters. The outcome of this session will be our game plan as we move you through your coming-out journey. 

From here on out, we’ll jump into regular coaching sessions. In each session, you’ll control the specific topic as we execute the game plan we built in the Discovery Session. And, of course, at any time, we can move in a new direction if the game plan no longer feels right for you. 

The whole coming out coaching process gives you:

  • 90-minute Discovery Session where we’ll develop your unique game plan for achieving your personal goals
  • Weekly 1-hour coaching sessions over Zoom (Recorded if you’d like) for 3-6 months.
  • Weekly journal prompts designed to help you overcome the expectations, blame, fears, and judgments that get in the way of stepping into the best version of yourself
  • Support between sessions through email, text, or Voxer

Coming out Coaching Self-Investment

Coming out coaching packages range from $350 - $700 per month.

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Hiding who you are is only keeping you from living your best life. Schedule your free clarity call today and discover new ways of thinking about your coming out journey.


What is Spiritual life coaching?

Life Coaching is a collaborative and creative process in which the coach partners with clients to help them uncover previously untapped potential. Spiritual life coaching is simply life coaching that also incorporates spirituality. I believe that spiritual life coaching better addresses the whole of the client’s being. In spiritual life coaching, the coach will utilize spiritual tools such as meditation, affirmations, visualization, tarot, and more.

What does spirituality have to do with coming out?

Often when someone is in the process of coming out, they experience negative feelings around being LGBTQ+ because of their religious upbringing. Some gay and bi men reject all spirituality due to religious trauma. Helping my clients find a healthy spirituality that embraces all of who they are, helps them come out with more dignity and less emotional pain. For me, spirituality, unlike religion, benefits all areas of life. I aim to help LGBTQ+ people discover a relationship with whatever their concept of a higher power is and a healthy expression of that relationship. After all, our relationship with the Divine is the essence of spirituality.

What can we work on?

While coming out, other issues that you want to deal with may arise. During our sessions, you will always control the specific topic we’re working on. We can work on one of your goals related to your particular coming out journey or another issue that feels alive for you in the moment. Previous clients have brought things like body image, finding other LGBTQ+ friends, career, spirituality, and self-confidence. 

What do you mean that You may Challenge me at Times?

A good coach notices what his client doesn’t see. As we work together, core beliefs may come up that aren’t true for you anymore. Or you may be putting off taking action steps to move forward. When you seem stuck, or you’re not noticing your self-sabotaging, I’ll point it out. Then I’ll ask you to design an action plan to move forward. Sometimes, that will feel challenging because it's easier to believe the false notions that have become comfortable.

How long will it take?

Most clients work with me for 3-6 months while coming out. The timeframe will depend on where you are in your journey and your timeline for coming out.

What does coming out coaching cost?

Coming-out coaching packages range from $350 - $700 per month.

Will you support me outside of our sessions?

Absolutely! I know that coming out can be scary and I wanted to be in your corner cheering you on. You'll be able to reach me through email, text, or the Voxer app between our sessions. I'll answer questions for you and provide encouragement.

I have another question.

I'm happy to answer any questions you may have about spiritual life coaching for coming out. You can visit my contact page and send me an email through the form there.